Just moments before, you had money, and now, you don’t. :cool: I was always on the thrifty side and I do think this is a positive thing, mostly. And spending money on other people is better than spending money on yourself but not if you don’t care about other people and even still, spending on yourself is only good if you spend … What you think it means: He doesn't want to embarrass me. I’ve started making people gifts instead (cookies, chocolates,etc). Call 1-800-669-BR549 for a thank you and my PayPal account addy. I was in a very similar position for much of my life. Use the 45 Minutes Rule. Multi-millionaires aside, the reality is that women still make something like 72 cents to every dollar that men make. 8 Ways to Stop Spending Money. Saving money is great. Thanks in advance. Forget the big house, cars, boats etc. So I feel obligated and guilty. So if you’re always spending money on things that you don’t need, having a bigger goal in mind will most likely eliminate that urge of yours for good. They don't go to the dentist or doctor because don't want to spend the money." Having money is better than not having money, but having more money isn’t necessarily better. Here’s the good news: You can overcome these spending habits with a little planning, self-awareness and long-term thinking. What happened: You are kind of a couple, but you rarely see his family or friends. Some people – like Bakke's relative who received a pay cut – have good reasons for being afraid to spend money. I don’t want their money or for them to spend money on me, but then they do! I was wondering if you could sell all your old vehicles to Kars4Kids, sell your wife's or girlfriend's vehicle and send me the money? That breaks down into, "wow, I'd love a gift like that but I'd like it because he wants to get it for me, not because he feels like he has to get it for me." All donations are not tax-deductible, and all names of donors will remain secret. So, the next time you make a purchase, pay in cash, and you’ll see exactly what I mean. Maybe, even though you have plenty of money now, he simply doesn’t care much about the quality of a hotel room and doesn’t see the need to spend more money on it than the bare minimum. You spend all the important holidays separately. The most common car driven by those with very high incomes isn’t a luxury car, it’s a Toyota Corolla. If you don’t, you’ll be wishing on your death bed that you had, and you won’t care at all about the money you have. What EMK says about rich people getting rich because they don’t want to spend money has some basis in reality. Now, if you always think about that bigger purpose, you’ll find it hard to spend money on irrelevant objects that bring you no good. Don’t equate spending with squandering Sometimes it’s more prudent to spend your money than to save it. 2. He is very close with his friends and family, which is why he spends more time with them than with me. I never understood why you … Or she means, "I don't want you to feel like you HAVE to spend money on me." Live simply when you have kids so you can spend as much time with them as possible while they’re young. Or maybe you don't know them at all. This year for my own sanity I’ve had to take the stance that if they don’t like it tough titty. If you have kids, consider them to be what you spend money on.